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I'm sure I'm speaking to many young ladies when I reference pain concerning relationships. How many of you been involved in situations where you're not leaning on God's understanding, but rather your own, to please your fleshly desires? How many of you have dated without a purpose? Is dating a trial run for your future as a practice of divorce-finding yourself with a different man all too frequently? If you're answering yes to any of these questions, I want you to reflect as to why you're doing this.
Some of our parents used the term courting, "No courting until 16!" Little did they know the world had other plans for teenage, college age, or girls in their twenties. The world wants us to dip into a "good time" with no purpose, no meaning-only a live for now experience. Young men, selling dreams to your hearts with no real intentions. Its all a game to both of you in which surely someone will get hurt.
I see dating as a way of two individuals having no desire to be seriously committed. Ladies entertaining multiple men is unacceptable. It's not for you to take matters into your own hands to "find" anything. Not only that, but there's no transparency. Both people are trying to be someone they're not, instead of placing their real qualities on the table. Dating is all about "finding" when neither should be looking for the other. Ladies, its not your job to look for a man. If you remember Ruth was working with Boaz discovered her. She was focused. Submit to God. Stay focused on you and the rest shall follow. And yes, I know ladies the bible tells us "He who finds a wife." (Prov. 18:22). But I do believe this scripture is taking completely out of context. I'm sure the most upright, man of God isn't constantly searching for a needle in a haystack. But in all things, on God's time it will be revealed to him.
Dating also, knows little about submission. Ladies, remember if a man hasn't fully submitted to God, how can he respect you? He should embrace you as Christ loved the Church.
Dating has no boundaries. Ladies, why give husband privileges to the ungodly boyfriend? Sex, money, etc.) It all goes back to the saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Courting on the other hand sees God as the true source. Its a time of being selflessness and honoring God for the best he has to offer you. Courtship doesn't desire to tempt you or compromise your morals and values. The bottom line is two individuals should running as fast they can to Christ and in due time God will introduce them to one another. Stay encouraged ladies!
"Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart."~2 Timothy 2:22
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